Laws of Attraction

I have read so many motivational books that I do not remember the authors of some, just the book titles. I enjoy reading as the right book would allow me critically evaluate certain aspects of my life and teach me something new and valuable. I also like to read controversial books like "the secret", "the act of seduction", "48 laws of power" and of course the best of the lot "the Bible".

I am sure many people will question by adding the Holy Bible to that list. For starters, not everyone is a Christian or a believer of the Bible's message. I have my questions but I like the way the book is a balancing act between spirituality and living. I have respect for other books that are faith based, helping to build good morals and character. I am not going to discuss the content of the Bible here, I just want to focus on lasting human attraction.

There is a book called "the laws of attraction" by Michael Losier which explains the science of meeting and connecting with people. I am not doing a review of the book, you may wish to read it if you desire. I do think however, that there are certain aspects of people that attract others to them. In a not too perfect society, money, power, beauty are strong attraction factors but I have observed that there are other qualities that can meet all of these of even last longer when those factors diminish.

People who have a high sense of self, are able to attract other people to them. They are self aware but not arrogant, somehow they manage to accept their weakness, thrive on their strengths and maintain loyal relationships within their circles. Most of these people have had long standing relationships with friends and family. They tend to have intergrity, character, drive, faith and a good dose of positivity.

I am not talking about crowd pleasers, but individuals who network with the sole aim of adding value and building mutually beneficial relationships. They are sometimes slow to fraternize but when they do, it is usually meaningful. They are analytical critical thinkers and are largely dependable.

The key for attraction here is not to mingle with people to be seen as been part of a group, but to join a group for the sole purpose of value addition. These people may not be the fastest and most noticeable, but once discovered people trust them and tend to stick with them for a long time. Physical attraction will open the communication door, but character ensures that relationships serve its purpose. In all your networking, build character and ensure that integrity, values and accountability are part of your character mix. The interesting thing most books won't tell you is that these traits are in short supply and can deliver long term value.

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